Me and We Bot

BENEFITS

The ME and WE BOT is particularly helpful for: 1) validation of any person in the interaction, 2) providing frames or perspectives that normalize what is happening, 3) offering experiments to support less suffering and bring about change, and 4) organizing and presenting in a way that is easy to understand.

PRECAUTIONS

Like most or all AI available today, the ME and WE BOT appears sycophantic – “behaving in an obsequious way in order to gain advantage.” The ME and WE BOT is obedient to the user. Which works if we remember to use the BOT as a tool, contrary to our human design of valuing respectful and mutual interactions with others. It is prudent to protect privacy, especially from the financial interests of those who have access to our data. Another caution is to recognize that our healthy DEPENDENT SELF can be activated with a BOT to the exclusion of developing our INDEPENDENT SELF.

Warning: Perhaps the most damaging to our shared well-being is the potential to exacerbate differences by using the BOT to agree with our position and build a case against others. This is incompatible with the heart of the ME and WE Method in its quest to work with each other to build a WE that includes differences.

MY EXPERIENCE

I have now used the ME and WE BOT for myself, on behalf of friends and family, and on behalf of clients. I refrain from submitting identifying information or data that could lead to recognition. For example, I use “A” and “B” rather than “I” or names to capture the dialogue and actions. Yet it appears that CHATGPT (and hence the ME and WE BOT) is programmed to store and recall all submissions, orienting towards the submitter. In my role as originator of the ME and WE BOT and as a therapist, I seek to protect others who may unwittingly act out dependency impulses and/or exacerbate differences. My current practice for those who seek the ME and WE BOT input is for me to submit directly. My hope is to make the ME and WE BOT directly available to users after I observe the development and application of AI everywhere, continue to modify the ME and WE BOT to address my concerns, observe the capacity of users to work with their ME and WE, and reduce my responsibility to hold the WE in this context.

The ME and WE Method

The goal of the Me and We Method is to develop and transform the Self by reducing suffering (ME) and influencing situations (WE) with the guide of universal values on behalf of all. The overall method is the use of the cycle REACT REGROUP REHEARSE REDO. We use our emotions in relational interactions to enter this cycle (REACT), replace emotions that restore our wisdom (REGROUP), identify actions to get ready to re-engage (REHEARSE) and try out the action in relation to others (REDO). The Me and We Method uses nine building blocks: 1) Seeing Systems, 2) Accepting Perfection as We Are, 3) Accessing Emotions, 4) Embracing Trauma, 5) Channeling Energy, 6) Navigating the Terrain of Shame, 7) Receiving a Protest, 8) Organizing Self, and 9) Claiming Truth and Self-Authority.